The truth of love

Listening to morning radio stations there is always a relationship based topic ,at least on one of the stations. Something just hit me that most of the Kenyan population, are walking around with half hearts. Even those in relationships will once in a time reminisce about a past relationship or a "first" this soap operas have totally erased and brainwashed our women folk with this fantasy kind of love. So many of us meet Mr. Right along their life's journey but kinda just let him go all because he does not fit into your definition.....,and for our men y'all just want us to fit into your idealistic ideas and want your Egos to be nursed by us. Well remeber it's a two way street.......take a challenge  and take this simple love test

 Does He or She make up part of your conversation constantly?

You are always referring to them or thinking of referring to them concerning a certain way things are done?

You say you are over them but still get offended if they don't keep in touch but you can't say?

You constantly fiddle with your phone to send a message or text to them but never get to actually doing it and as a result have a dozen of drafts addressed to them?

You can't get over the fact that they wronged  you and keep discussing it as such a big deal?

Are you dating someone with the same name,character or complexion?

If most of your answers are yes,learn to stop being typically you. Swallow your pride,extend an olive branch....take a risk. Stop being vengeful....that is so childish..

Grow up! Understand that relationships take work,take effort,and most of all loosing a bit of you, to gain a whole lot of new Him or Her. Love your life but do not be selfish with it.

Don't typecast all of them just because one let you down. 

Hope again, breakdown the walls,

Be kind,

Be courteous,

Give yourself time to heal and time to learn how to love again,

Claim back your heart or accept the trade made and embrace your partners heart,

Stop making excuses for either one of you, 

Let's build better families because we are well known for our family culture and closeness,

Let us not introduce divorce in Kenya, but let us reduce the alarmingly rising statistics,

Stay true to your roots,

Have some etiquette and remember,,,,,the best spouse is your Best Friend.......

A fascination for the west

If you decide to take a walk on our streets today, you will meet with ladies in lush locks and skinny jeans with over made up faces and men in suits. Some time back I was chatting up a friend and I asked her if she was given the choice of getting any man in her life, what would she pick. Her answer came rather obvious that given a chance she would love to get married
to a westerner and enjoy being a western bride. My friend is not the only one in this school of thought but many a young lady, even a young man in Kenya always wants to look western. This is depicted in the way we dress,we speak,we act and perceive others. Kenyans not an exception think of their culture as old fashioned and boring. Many young people would loose sleep over the thought of going without their designer jean or being told to dress in their traditional regalia. We attribute most of our nature to the west. It is amazing that you would rather take your kid to a western system school than a normal Kenyan school. But let's face it who is to blame for all this, we are so afraid of being us that we consider the west as "gods" and adore them like no ones business. Don't get me wrong I don't hate them but I would wish that as much as we embrace the modernization that comes with facing west, we would embrace our beauty and rich heritage as Kenyans. Take one Lupita Ny'ongo who has totally shown the world that she is just as good as them. As I conclude today I must share my experience and point out the that the black and white in this grey;they love our rich heritage. This man got into a matatu I was in today and seated next to him was a white man who was not as good in English,they conversed and when this white man was about to alight the guy asked for his no. Maybe it was just a friendly gesture but the excitement that shone on his face when he was saving the no...you'd think he had won one of the BMW's in the samsung promotion. We appreciate their advancement in life but just think how many of this guys flock Maasai market and our cultural stores to get a piece of our heritage. We rarely even would stop to look at this stores if not for a gift or for an image up do. Anyway let us appreciate who we are and not forget that east or west home is the best..........Tujivunie Kuwa waKenya.

I was on my way to work this morning and running late. i stopped at a railways to board a matatu to get me to work. i clearly asked the matatu attendant otherwise known as "conductor if the matatu was headed my way. with confidence he nodded as he rushed me to board the now almost moving matatu. two things happened that made me just amazed at some things that are exclusive to the kenyan community/ economy. we proceeded and all of a sudden the matatu stopped and the attendant announced that the matatu had reached its destination. remember i was late for work. trying to keep my cool i asked him thought you said this was headed my way then he looked at me and with blankness and insensitivity's painted across his face he said "madam kwani huoni gari ni ya Ngong road(madam do you not see that this car's destination is Ngong road) and acted like he was the victim. i was flabbergasted and lost for words he had got his money and did not give a care in the world that i was late and he had put me slight of course and with that killed any hopes of my getting to work on time. I was almost getting pissed off when i realized and smiled to my self. this only happens in Kenya and specifically in Nairobi. So next time you don't know where you are headed do not trust a Makanga or tout or conductor, better have your GPS set or get directions prior to your depature and know where you are going lest you end up in some  remote or strange place that you have no clue of. i finally got to work. so next time it happens to you, just brush it off and smile. you are in Kenya and such is the spice that makes us who we are. Be equipped and avoid the shock,because some things are just typicall
VanceJulie